Is Your Man Egoistic?
Is the one whom you often hold hands with, palm to palm; and talk to from day and night; sharing every little single things in life; EGOISTIC?
In my context, the word egoistic means someone who bosses the woman around; who thinks he is better than everyone else, especially better than his own woman; who acts like he is more superior than his own woman.
So, is your man egoistic?
Right, you may answer no.
But then the thing is, every man is born an egoist. Yes, I repeat, EVERY MAN. They don’t have to be trained since young; they don’t need fathers who are very egoistic themselves. When the time comes, they just transform before you can even comprehand what is happening, they become egoistic.
Here’s why, even though at 2008, we’re considered as the NEW and FRESH generations, and we often regard the old cultures as old fashioned, especially on the culture where men were superior in the old days. Ya, we put it beside our mouths, that IT IS OLD FASHIONED, and girls are getting more and more educated. But then, because of such thinking still exists, though we keep saying it’s old fashioned, all the young boys are still in a way being educated that they are more superior than women, because they HAD been!! And because in the old days where women got married and took care of the home and family matters, while waiting for their husbands to come back, and the males being the bread winners, this impression has deeply imprinted in everyone of us. Even at this very modern generation, a lot of girls still think this way!! They want get married and become housewives and let the males be the sole bread winners.
The problem is, when they think this way, it leads to egoism!
NO? Ok, being the sole bread winner in the family, it means that person has full power over his family. And because he knows the fact that the entire family depends on him, he can have a say over every single thing. Because if they don’t listen to him, he stops giving them money. He can run away and let his family die. (You would be surprised that a lot of males do that) And that’s simply egoism.
Or, maybe it can be influence. Like when he tells his friends about his family problems. They would tell him “What, she is only wife!” The next thing you know is, he brings the same phrase home, telling you -”Who do you think you are? You’re only my wife!” “You’re only my wife, don’t decide for me!” “Keep quiet! You’re only my wife!” “What do you know, you’re only my wife!” And that’s again, E-G-O-I-S-M.
One more thing, in a lot of books, textbooks, storybooks, novels, movies, dramas, talk shows, conversations, they always say men fuck women. Men fuck women. Men fuck women. Men become the subjects. Fuck is the verb. And women become objects. Just one phrase, and it has indirectly objetized women. Thus, in the man’s eyes, woman is merely an object of pleasure. And once again, that leads to EGOISM.
Now don’t come and tell me men don’t fuck! Or even fantasize!
One thing for sure is, women don’t need man. A lot of women are earning very decent income, some even more successful than the men. Until they sacrifice and become housewives and let their men have total control over them. Because women are very emotional and more sensitive, and because they have carried their children for 9 months in their own bodies, they want to be near them even after they have delivered their babies. And to my horror! Some women even enjoy the feeling over being controlled by men!
Another proof of man’s egoism? Here’s the unobvious, most guys tend to look for or attracted to weaker girls whom they can protect.
Ok, GUYS! This is personal opinion. Not like I hate you all, but then I’ve come across a lot of you who are like these!
*run away*
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i totally agree.. if one were to open their eyes n observe the guys in detail, they would find every single guy has egoism in them.. muahaha.. one might think i’m a feminist but then what i’m telling is the truth..
haha
i love my guy. [= heeeeeee. hahaha. ok nvm.
I love my boyfriend. He is gentle and nice.
I find him a little bit controlling. I think that’s egoism too!
wrong wrong wrong!
jkidding.
men are egoistic but i’ve also met women who are egoistic. who says only the men are possessive or like to control over their spouse? some women are like tat too. and who said only women are sensitive n caring, etc? some men r like tat too.
i think it’s not right to judge the entire men / women by 1 kind of personality.
the age where men r the main provider of bread n butter r no longer true. i know a lot of women who earn a lot more than men.
men do fuck. God created us this way what. =_= same like women look “awed” when they see some Brad Pitts walk pass.
i do agree that some men r jz idiots. they play wif women as if they are credit cards or disposable items. but not all. i know some men who are very caring n down to earth. so better don group everyone under one roof.
men OR women can live without the companionship of another. no doubt. but it would be better to have one another.
Ya, you might think that the age where men are the main provider are no longer true, I think it’s because of all the inflations and increase in price in a lot of things nowadays, so to support a whole family, having two providers can definitely make the financial burden lighter.
But there’s one thing you can’t deny, most women still think this way-Get married, family, and stop working. And if they were to have choices, they would choose to be housewives(from what I see&know of), then aren’t men the main providers that time?
I know there are good men out there. In my own point of view, just a bit rare.
Thanks for dropping by!
yo yc. what drives you into writing this article?
like Alvin said, men are egoistic, but not all of us.
‘ladies = spendthrifts. they buy useless stuffs. money come out from men’s pocket but women help them to the bin.’
unfair for a girl like you right?
actually I was reading this random article about chromosome Y in man’s body. How this particular gene has made men egoistic. So it’s something natural. HAHA! Don’t know lah, all these research things, they always come out with some science theories.
But i somehow still think men are still egoistic in some ways. I think I can have a lot of girls testifying it.
Why unfair to me wor?
But then there are many girls who save money like mad too, you know.
that’s the point - there are still women who save money like mad, assisting the husbands.
same goes to the men. there are still men who are considerate and selfless.
It’s like those little things that make guys more prideful and egoistic. And one of the main factor that causes this is the hormone, testosterone.
Yea, guys can be gentle and nice, considerate and selfless. Then there those little things guys do that make them a bit egoistic in the man’s ways. Like, not wanting to cry in front of the girls? That’s a man’s pride, and that’s man’s egoism. This kinda things.
u ok ah? u sound very angry when replying to my comment. anyway, wat i wanna say is - dont hold prejudice or any form of discrimination. egoistic is part of men’s nature. as long as we can control it, then it’s ok. jst like everything else, it needs a balance. if too much of something, is always bad.
by the way, most women i know either think like what u said…or they wanna find a rich guy n get married….no need to work. hahaha. but there r also some who earn so much more than the husband that they become quite bossy…ordering the husband around.
Har? got mer? Sorry then.maybe I should change the way of writing… Probably too formal. Nola, i don’t hold prejudice. Just writing it out for fun anyway. I just want to point out it’s man’s nature. Because some guys keep(whom I know of) denying that it’s natural.
Usually if a woman has a career, she is more unlikely to get a husband. I think she will be super choosy because no guys can match her status..
Don’t know eh, I haven’t reached that stage yet!
Everyone wants a cinderella’s ending..
testosterone? where is that article? can i view it online?
is it scientifically proven?
do they consider the race/ethnic/religion/perceptions of the samples - the men in this case?
Anyway, if they say it has something to do with testosterone, then it’s nothing to with race/ethnic/religion/perceptions. it has something to do with body lo.
But then, since a long time ago, i guess you have watched movies, or even read books, men have always been regarded as more superior. Especially in the ancient times…
And some more, women still face glass ceiling, at these modern days =(
Well, not special here. This post is just for you to express your feeling to a guy. Ego is man nature. If you think this post can change the world. Please.. go to bed and dream kao kao..
I can tell you one thing here… like what happening on US now. The president selection is now only Obama or Clinton will be president what I bet 100USD Obama will win this time, instead of Clinton.
Why? Women always, I say again, always weak. Men can control everything, but women cannot! Women are sexy and good looking, but still dummy. I never overlook on women, since they also have their own force to make something happen, but only 1 in a 100 will happen.
Women can save money, but also still a women. Women need to give birth, and take care her family and husband.
I love women, but I hate their egoism because they try to act like a men instead of women. What a stupid move. If you are women, then act like a women. You can change a man thinking but not everyman thinking.
Women is a very unique creature in the world. Damn hard to understand, sometime. If you think women and men are same, they you need to slap your own face and wake up. You are now under the earth, sun and moon since human existing in the world.Men and Women are different. Women got period, women can get pregnant. They are very weak on this period. Men? Nothing to care about, but 95% of the men in the world is damn stupid, if not why not much men in the world making a lot of money?
Women, just a women. Men just a men. But you are lucky, you can be tom boy if you want if you dont wanna be women. Or even lesbian. Because people like you still exist in the world, increase a lot of the population of lesbian and tom boy in this surface. Shame!
Sorry, my mood is bad when I write above post. *everyone will telling what they are thinking when they are on bad mood.
*hehehe… anyone, you thinking will be change when you on next year of this date and month, believe me. 
The thing about women who are egoistic, is because they know they can be. They have the abilities to be.
The problem is, according to research conducted by Sexuality Experts, Mcwhiter, 9.56% of men are homosexuals. Whereas ONLY 4.75% of women are homosexuals. The ratio is half. So who should be ashamed now? Men or Women?
Yes, woman and man are different, biologically. But when it comes to human rights or equity. Women and men are no different. And just because a human is born with a penis doesn’t mean he has more rights in this world. Lawfully, whether you’re gay or straight, women or men, we’re all the same.
Your post has already clearly stated that men are egoistic, to the point that they don’t mind arguing with people, thinking that they’re always right, even if all they’ve got are merely empty words, and the worst still arguing with broken english.
Some men can argue with people egoistically with facts and figures, with knowledge and information. And these men deserve respect. Because they know what they are arguing about.
But you even got the facts wrong.
My thinking hasn’t changed since 19 years ago and will not be in the coming years too.
Louiss got a point
‘I love women, but I hate their egoism because they try to act like a men instead of women. What a stupid move. If you are women, then act like a women. You can change a man thinking but not everyman thinking.’
i consider those women as stupid. in men eyes (or maybe my own eyes) women are only beautiful when they show their true feminine self, instead of being bossy, wanting to take control over man.’
Louiss said ‘women always weak’ but i don’t think so. man and woman assist each other.
by the way , yc it’s Mcwhirter not Mcwhiter.
can i consider u having ur facts wrong?hahahahah….
‘Yes, woman and man are different, biologically. But when it comes to human rights or equity. Women and men are no different.’
so since man =woman and man is egoistic, is woman = egoistic?
I think beauty is different to every person. Like you might like weaker girls, while to some men, these strong women are diamonds to them. After all, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
I used to attend a class in a church, where the pastor used to tell us, “No one is stupid in this world, only people who don’t know how to appreciate the others.” I always keep that in my mind, and what the others do or say, even though I have a strong resentment sometimes, I never ever call people stupid. And this principle is what I’ve learnt from a Christian, surprisingly.
I am talking about rights and equity-LAWS. Not characteristics. -___-||
i am amazed and shocked that a girl like you would attend a class in a church.
The bible teaches me:(Ephesians 5:21-24)
21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Men show egoism, yes.
Surprisingly u learnt priciples from Christians, why not u continue to learn?
oh i forgot, no religion topics in ur blog
I personally think that a woman who never submit herself to man is egoistic. a woman who submits herself to man shows that she submits herself to God.
well that’s my own point of view. couldn’t blame women for being ego bcz not all of them are Christians right? again that’s my point of view
I have even attended buddhist classes, and I have read Hinduism Teachings. I have books on a lot of religions. My family has been very open minded.I know which principles i should follow and which not. In every religions, there are flaws and benefits. Not every thing we must follow. And then again, there are a lot of women who are Christians who don’t want to submit themselves to men. After all, the heart is entirely devoted to God, why bother about physical devotion to men then?
yes there are countless women who are egoistic, not wanting to submit themselves to men. this show that they are not submiting themselves to God, because they are not following the teaching in the bible, so i doubt their heart are entirely devoted to God.
it’s not about physical devotion. the bible is taking about spiritual devotion as in verse 22 ‘Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.’
spiritual egoism in women.
If the God asks you to kill, would you? Even if your conscience is telling you that that person is innocent, even if whatever research and investigation you’ve conducted have told you clearly and absolutely that person is innocent. Would you still kill?? I remember the answer you gave me was Yes. Then wouldn’t it be the same like those people who bombed US just because the God told them to?
I don’t know whatever the future holds for a particular person. I only know, taking one’s life is wrong, lawfully. And whether a person wants to be devoted or not, no one can judge whether they are wrong or not. Because it’s their rights. And then no one can doubt one’s suffering or pain unless you have gone through their positions.
Women who usually don’t submit are those who have been betrayed by men, like being raped or abused? How do you want to judge that again?
And then again, no one has the right to judge. No one will understand until they have gone through the same stages, same situations as these women.
biased…hm interesting…..yeah i just discovered that at the end of the day i will only bring out my Jesus instead of mr buddha becz i am devoted to my God.
i think spiritual egoism doesn’t only happen among christian …it happens in any religion.
biased. because i bring out Christianity?
so whose aren’t biased?opinions out from atheists?
i might also consider yours as biased . i’m sure you wouldn’t talk about buddha or hindu classes if u yourself havenot attended them before. since you did, i am sure you are aware that God does exist, meaning you’re not an atheist.
by the way, i DIDN’T say i’ll kill if God asks me to do so. watch your words.
i’d be interested if you tell me when did i say that.
Very simple to know if the stand is bias or not, if there’s anything that has been brought up has something to do with God. It’s considered bias. After all, every religion learns different things. Some people will be inclined to one and another.
Yes,you have said that before. You said you would do it because God has His own reasons or something. It was long time ago. And my old blog perished.
LOL. You thought I was an atheist? And whether or not God exists, it’s not up to us to question. And who say I am aware that God exists just because I attended those classes, and read those books? What if I say I have read books written by antheist as well? So, I don’t believe in God, you will say? You should stop judging people.
judging? i am just trying to make my points clear. i seek truth and i’m sharing them with friends. well one thing i learned from my pastor is that, never expect everyone to agree with me. but that will not stop me from sharing my opinions.
yeah you might think i am judgemental,
coz i am the only one who always ‘accidentally’ talks about christianity in your blog :p
coz you can’t find an indian reading your blog, daring enough to share their opinions
if they do, one day,
will you consider them as judgemental?
i’m sure the greek wouldn’t create a word ‘atheos’ if atheist didn’t exist.
you wouldn’t waste time in attending those classes if you don’t have the tiniest interest in religion , would you?
i dont think the existence of god ‘is up to us to question’. it is up to us to believe whether He does exist. and here comes the atheists.
So far, I have Malays, Indians as friends. Those who are from KL. I think in in the capital city, we don’t bring out God when we voice our personal opinions. Because in a lot of cases, when we bring out God as our points, our arguments naturally lose its power. It works this way, here.
I don’t know, i have a lot of friends who are devoted Christians, we often and sit down and chat some of the issues I have talked about in my blog. Other than personal opinions, they don’t bring out anything to do with God.
Maybe their thinking has been influenced by how they have been taught religiously since young. But they don’t bring out all the bible phrases. They don’t put God besides their mouths all the time everytime they voice out their opinions.
I might believe that you’re judgemental. But at this case, I have to believe it because it’s just one word and in your eyes I am an atheist! WOW! You know my entire life, whether or not I believe in God just because one word?? That’s cool!
yep i got your point. i think ‘geography’ is another factor.
kl is too big and i barely find churches.
sarawak is too big. interesting fact is that it is the state with most churches.
i think, putting God beside my mouth had become a habit of mine since most of my friends at sibu are Christians.
it’s only when i went to kl, i developed the interest in knowing other people’s religion,especially the non-christians. their point of view are interesting sometimes.
‘Just a word, does that make me an atheist? You don’t even know whether I believe or not? You don’t even know what I am interested in either..-___-||
I might believe that you’re judgemental. But at this case, I have to believe it because it’s just one word and in your eyes I am an atheist! WOW! You know my entire life, whether or not I believe in God just because one word?? That’s cool!’
i think tat’s human nature. who would attend religion classes if he/she denies the existence of god? that’s my personal opinion, maybe i’m wrong?!
it might be their sole interest, i think.
i don’t know.
coz i am born as a Christian
hey..i agree that guys are ego..i’ve met a guy who thinks that he’s the MAN..and that is why he always have this thinking that “leave to the men to settle his problems” …
ooo..great debate there….
for myself (me only arr..)..I believe in GOD, and the GOD is myself
chien…quite suprised you attended religious classes…sure you learned alot from there…me also interested in other religion but got no time to study them yet…
btw, me 70% egoistic…haha
very few young people really takes time to attend those classes…and you are one of them…
Jeremy, despite the best of your intentions (and I admire that), I believe that you lack sensitivity. If Yih Chien has clearly stated that she doesn’t want any conversation to be enshrined in religion, then please respect her wish. There are many ways to spread the truth of the gospel, but coercing your opinion upon somebody would only repel non-believers further away.
You can always share your beliefs by using a soft approach - testimonies of God’s grace in your life, carrying out your conduct according to His commandments, speak of it in your blog etc.
You ought to check yourself before you reiterate the fact that men are egotistic. I may be a bit pedantic here but egotistic is somewhat synonymous to selfishness. And that’s a very dangerous claim to make as an espousing Christian. You might just be sending out the wrong message. And please, don’t quote the bible as an reiteration to the claim that it is rightful of men being egotistic. That’s a blatant misquote.
Still, if you insist on quoting, then quote until verse 30. It’s a give and take situation. The wive submits on the condition that the husband loves her as much as he loves himself. To put it loosely, to love one as much as one loves himself is basically placing each other on equal ground. For how can you be condescending towards your very self? The men as the head must carry out his responsibilities in order to assume that right. Not by being a male chauvinist.
Try to be a bit more tactful. For what it’s worth, we are all made in the image of God.
I just realise too, if you capitalized the “J” for Jesus, you should also learn to respect the other religion by capitalizing the word “B” for Buddha and not just calling Him “Mr Buddha” like this.
What you have done is disrespectful and you have just easily disgraced yourself for being a Christian.
to Jean. Hi. yeah thanks for your advices. i am too tactless i think.and yeah, i lack sensitivity
to yc, yes i do respect every religion, or else i won’t call him Mr Buddha. If you feel uneasy upon hearing that, than ignore that line
to me i think it’s okay. Mr jesus is my God, i respect him by calling him Mr.
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